Tuesday, December 1, 2015

Here's looking at you, kid

Our mind willfully accepts every truth without doubting anything. We always feel that the world we see and the universe we imagine are true, and therefore we naturally accept it. We never give any thought to it because our mind is ever ready to run towards the attractive visible. 
The correct spiritual practice tries to move our attention from the visible. The core of the correct practice is based on our conscious effort to turn the attention of our mind to our self. If we don’t do this then we will continue to believe in the non-existent universe until we die. 

The spiritual practice is the change of our attitude or perception. The tool for making this change is wisdom. The wisdom is related to recognition of what is true, everlasting, and what is not. When wisdom is fully imbibed by the mind, we finally realize that the visible is an illusion. We are then attracted towards the real thing, our own self.
After getting to know our self for the first time, we then yearn for more. We are drawn to irresistible urge to have the constant realization which yields us to bliss hitherto never experienced. 

Once we get the bliss we want it forever for we feel that without it everything in this world is worthless. Then we start feeling that we unnecessarily wasted our life till this period by running after the nonexistent visible. 

At this stage the one tries his best to have self-realization. The one who by effort kills the feeling of “me” experiences a peculiar contradiction. In the earlier phases of practice one is very enthusiastic about doing it but it is his “me” who has to do it. After a point of time when he does the practice correctly, he realizes the abstract principle that unless he sheds off this “me”, he would never get to the realization. 

At this stage he is confronted with an insurmountable difficulty for the solution of how he approaches his practice. The only correct way to proceed is ceaseless discrimination between true and false. 

The true is our self all else is false. Wisdom makes the feeling of being distant from everything except the truth, and practice grows with this realization. The desire to see the true and become a part of it automatically follows. 

This is the root of real practice. This is easier said than done. It requires application of wisdom and enormous and right effort. 

Sunday, November 29, 2015

Why woman cannot sh*t at boyfriend’s place?

"To be or not to be" is a great philosophical question asked by Shakespeare but I am asking similar great question of dating philosophy: Why woman cannot sh*t at boyfriend’s place?

I have noticed this strange behavior with all my girlfriends when they sleep over at my place. This weekend I spend two nights with a wonderful woman and I noticed that she is not going to bathroom at all. That sparked my curiosity and I asked her about that. She told me she is having a kind of constipation so she can not sh*t at my place.

Okay ladies, it's time I speak up, my girlfriend can't be the only one who has this problem. I write this post to show some solidarity to you, and let you know you're not alone. Or, make fun of your behavior mercilessly. Whichever.

No joke, If my beloved girlfriend stay over night for a sleep over and we had a wonderful dinner with cake, a bottle of wine and two coffees and in the morning she cannot bring herself to sh*t at my place... then what? It is a problem. This is a huge problem if she needs to stay more then one night, let say for the entire weekend. I mean, two days without pooping?! That's just downright unhealthy!

Okay, so this is a really embarrassing and a big problem. This really can affect relationship because of this my girlfriend literally said she can not stay at my place longer than one day because she cannot use the bathroom when I am around. It's a psychologically imposed constipation.

Guys, women do sh*t! Why is it so difficult to them just to admit that they do fart and sh*t like we do, I don't know... and I’m not in the business of trying to figure women's behavior, (that's not possible). What I do know, however, is that not one of them is immune to this "sh*ting" terror. So remember that and talk to your partner about this.

For women who dates a new guy, the moment to go to bathroom is pure terror when she realize there’s no way she's going to be able to hold it in, that it’s coming out one way or another.

I’m not religious, but I firmly believe there is a heaven and it can be reached by women only. The heaven is their feeling of having a massive dump at their boyfriend’s place.

Saturday, November 28, 2015

Don't forget batteries!

If you are happy right now you have to stop that foolishness and ask yourself the reason why are you happy. 

How come that nothing bothers you right now? 

You are reading this words, sitting in your chair, maybe you are hungry (are you?) or maybe it is cold... Is your rent coming soon? Where did you park your car? Is your kid came home last night? Why did you say those words to your friend? 

Look around you: your clothes, your house, your job. Think whatever you want, but think and worry... you are not a zombie.  

Are you really happy?

Chances are your happiness is based on your idea that you are missing something, that you need something to be happy. You are right on. 

It is Black Friday weekend, the sales are in every store. Go to your favorite and buy, buy what you need, buy that necklace that you really like. It is on sale now, it is a good deal; get now pay later. You will be happy. 

Buy a bigger TV or a new phone. Get something, anything, buy a new car, go online and buy a trip to Mexico, or a trip to Montreal, get new perfume... You need it. You must have it, you want it... to want it is to be alive, to have it is to be happy. 

We tend to forget that happiness comes as a result of getting something we need and it is so important to see and recognize what we need. Take a look around you, there is a sudden renewed appreciation for what is already right in front of you... see what you need and get it. Fast.

Don't be afraid. What is fear really? 

Don’t take life for granted. Don’t casually accept what you have right now. Fear is always about something in the present moment. Fear is your boredom about the things you already have.

Celebrate Black Friday, the international sales day. Fight over TVs, phones, computers and microwaves. Have a sense of community. Don't be bothered by long lines and heavy security. Buy everything you can and wish... and don't forget batteries.

Wednesday, November 25, 2015

Kim Kardashian's ass

This post is dedicated to my friend... Puraman.

Human society is based on dominance and naturally takes the form of Kim Kardashian's ass with few at the top and most at the inside. Yes, this planet is a gigantic chicken coop, full by beings desiring to kiss Kim's ass.

We live in a system based on her hips, breasts and eyelashes. We treat her attributes as an omen of our culture.

Kim is beautiful, gorgeous, pretty — but she is repeatedly unsatisfied with herself. She wants more. She works for more. The selfies on Twitter and Instagram may be combination of arrogance and insecurity but certainly they are evidence of our collective materialism, of the conviction that "look" is not a fleeting thing, but rather a thing that can be made into money.

Kim's ass was normal, I would say... the sane thing, but later, it was growing by contemporary gadgets, influenced with the values of ego, hypocrisy, self-calming, empty talking, vanity and self-love.

For us to get back to reality we have to rebel against Kim Kardashian's ass because her ass is destroying our soul.

What are we rebelling against?

Kim's ass? the people would ask - What could you have against Kim's ass?

Nothing, except that her ass does not have soul. You see, I had a dream, a dream in which we could one day live in a world where we would judged not by size of our ass, but by the spiritual, lights of our soul. 

It all started with those that seek Kim's attributes, as their form of entertainment, in their own soulless and philosophy free form of jerking off. The Kardashians lead a life of laughter, frivolity, and fun, and soullessness. Their fans, mostly teenagers are led to believe in such life which hides the realities of poverty, drugs, disease, prostitution and porn.

The Kardashians and they wholesome life ideals, portrayed on tv screen, represents natural consequence of our fall. Behind their laughing faces and beneath their skirts lies anger from all the world to see.

The Kardashians are here spreading the misery but they don't feel so much of it, their skin is hard, while they sat on the other side of the tube enjoying in the juices of their reality.

An Interview with Charles Bukowski

there is a loneliness in this world so great
that you can see it in the slow movement of
the hands of a clock.

people so tired
either by love or no love.

people just are not good to each other
one on one.

the rich are not good to the rich
the poor are not good to the poor.

we are afraid.

our educational system tells us
that we can all be
big-ass winners.

it hasn't told us
about the gutters
or the suicides.

or the terror of one person
aching in one place

unspoken to

watering a plant.

- Charles Bukowski, Love is a Dog from Hell 

Ladies and Gentlemen;

I have a great respect toward Charles Bukowski, the writer of many poems, short stories and novels. I have compiled this interview from many pages I found on the internet. I hope you will enjoy reading it...

You have the reputation of a woman chaser and a male chauvinist?

I’m not a great fucker. I don’t go around fucking women by the dozens. But when I started writing this novel called Women, I had to do some research. 

I figured I had to meet more women. So I almost did it deliberately, I knocked on doors, I hopped into beds and I fucked when I didn't feel like fucking. 

I’m not really a great fucker. I’m not too interested in that kind of thing. It’s kind of drab. It’s hard work. 

The people that call me male chauvinist don’t know all my works, they've just heard rumors. If they had read the total body of my work they would know that I love women almost as much as I love myself. They are nice to have around.

You’ve been drinking constantly. Why all this drinking? 

Oh, drinking! Listen, I’ve been a poor working stiff all my life, no job or nothing. You know, when you don’t have any money at all, the women aren't going to bother you, so there’d be moments when you are just looking at four walls, you are wondering how to pay the rent or where your next meal is coming from. 

When things are very very bad, a drink is the only magic cheap thing left to give you the dream, to make you feel good for a moment. Now that I am not poor anymore, things haven't changed, because the human race is no good. 

In one of my poems I say: Humanity, you've never had it from the beginning. It’s just a feeling I have that everything is being wasted. It’s not life, it’s humanity that bothers me. The trees don’t bother me, the cats don’t bother me, the sun doesn't bother me. It’s humanity that has failed, that bothers me. 

Humanity is going to go down the same dumb ignorant path forever. But I’ll get out of it because I’ll kick off and I will be out. This companionship I’m living with now, they don’t thrill me at all.

If humanity is hopeless what do you hope to accomplish with your writing? 

I’m not an accomplisher. I’m like a spider spinning my web. It’s all I can do. What we do we do out of a natural instinct. We don’t even know why we are doing it, if we did we couldn't do it. 

Striving is destructive. I don’t believe in control, in studying, in learning. I just believe that what occurs occurs, and I go with it. 

To sum it all up in two words, “don’t try,” for me that works. I still find a great deal of joy in spite of everything, I don’t know why, but often times I wake up in the morning and I feel damn good. It’s just a feeling inside.

Why don't you like people?

Who does like people? You show me him and I'll show you why I don't like people. Period. Meanwhile, I have got to have another beer. 

Tough. Tough, indeed. I would say that Mickey Mouse had a greater influence on the American public than Shakespeare, Milton, Dante, Rabelais, Shostakovich, Lenin, and/or Van Gogh. Which say "What?" about the American public. 

Disneyland remains the central attraction of Southern California, but the graveyard remains our reality.

So do we abandon ship or hope altogether?

Why these clich├ęs, platitudes? OK, well, I would say no. We do not abandon ship. I say, as corny as it may sound, through the strength and spirit and fire and dare and gamble of a few men in a few ways we can save the carcass of humanity from drowning. 

No light goes out until it goes out. Let's fight as men, not rats. Period. No further addition.

Tuesday, November 24, 2015

I'll have what she's having

About me - I'm loyal, considerate, sensible, trustworthy, respectful, good listener, generous to a fault, helpful, heart of gold, devoted, funny, kind.  Looking for - a guy who loves life, stays fit and lives a healthy lifestyle, non-smoker, preferably no kids, open minded, trustworthy, protective, strong, witty, dedicated, no older than 48, likes to travel,  - a woman, 43 years old, profile from match.com.

What's the point for online dating? 
We only find someone to lose them later.

I don't believe in “The One” in online dating affairs. It all starts with excitement, text messages and waiting for Friday and it is nice in the beginning, but it doesn't last. 

Online dating has no "middle", it is only the beginning and end. It doesn't matter how long "The beginning" takes...a date or 10 dates. 

In my experience on match.com I've seen it all. Women claiming to have 'trust issues', a laundry list of needs, wants and demands in a man. Unrealistic considering what they have to offer.

They all "love to travel", they want to "see the world", they have children or a pet who are "on the first place in their life" and they look for a man "who will make them laugh" etc.. 

I'm telling you guys, a lots of whales there and sharks... "I am 41 but I look like 35" while she is 45... 

And all of them, no exceptions, are saying that they are looking for a long term relations and not looking for a sex. Hm... Come'n ...you're on a dating site dude.

Not to mention the way they respond on messages. The relation of man vs women on match.com is 30:1 so they can be very selective. Lets face it: as a women you just have to smile and you got 10 guys putting comments and asking to meet.

For women, the online dating is like shopping for new table in their dining room but at some point they have to see their “perfect match” in person to know if it’s a good fit...and there comes the real truth. 

Monday, November 23, 2015

University bans free yoga class

Free Ottawa yoga class scrapped over 'cultural issues'
Guest Post, Ottawa Sun News, written by Aedan Helmer 

Student leaders have pulled the mat out from 60 University of Ottawa students, ending a free on-campus yoga class over fears the teachings could be seen as a form of "cultural appropriation."

Jennifer Scharf, who has been offering free weekly yoga instruction to students since 2008, says she was shocked when told in September the program would be suspended, and saddened when she learned of the reasoning.

Staff at the Centre for Students with Disabilities believe that "while yoga is a really great idea and accessible and great for students ... there are cultural issues of implication involved in the practice," according to an email from the centre.

The centre is operated by the university's Student Federation, which first approached Scharf seven years ago about offering yoga instruction to students both with and without disabilities.

The centre goes on to say, "Yoga has been under a lot of controversy lately due to how it is being practiced," and which cultures those practices "are being taken from."

The centre official argues since many of those cultures "have experienced oppression, cultural genocide and diasporas due to colonialism and western supremacy ... we need to be mindful of this and how we express ourselves while practising yoga."

The concept of cultural appropriation is normally applied when a dominant culture borrows symbols of a marginalized culture for dubious reasons - such as the fad of hipsters donning indigenous headdresses as a fashion statement, without any regard to cultural significance or stereotype.

But Scharf, a yoga teacher with the downtown Rama Lotus Centre, said the concept does not apply in this case, arguing the complaint that killed the program came instead from a "social justice warrior" with "fainting heart ideologies" in search of a cause celebre.

"People are just looking for a reason to be offended by anything they can find," said Scharf.

"There's a real divide between reasonable people and those people just looking to jump on a bandwagon. And unfortunately, it ends up with good people getting punished for doing good things."

There were about 60 students who participated in the free program.

Acting student federation president Romeo Ahimakin denied the decision resulted from a complaint.

Ahimakin said the student federation put the yoga session on hiatus while they consult with students "to make it better, more accessible and more inclusive to certain groups of people that feel left out in yoga-like spaces. ... We are trying to have those sessions done in a way in which students are aware of where the spiritual and cultural aspects come from, so that these sessions are done in a respectful manner."

Scharf offered a compromise, suggesting she change the name from yoga to "mindful stretching," since that would reflect the content of the program and would "literally change nothing about the course."

"I'm not pretending to be some enlightened yogi master, and the point (of the program) isn't to educate people on the finer points of the ancient yogi scripture," she told the Sun.

"The point is to get people to have higher physical awareness for their own physical health and enjoyment."

According to email correspondence between Scharf and the centre, student leaders debated rebranding the program, but stumbled over how the French translation for "mindful stretching" would appear on a promotional poster, and eventually decided to suspend the program.

Student federation official Julie Seguin sympathized with Scharf over e-mail, defending the use of the term "yoga," and saying, "I am also still of the opinion that a single complaint does not outweigh all of the good that these classes have done."

Seguin said "labeling the CSD's yoga lessons as cultural appropriation is questionable (and) debatable" and called on further discussion with the student executive.

Sunday, November 22, 2015

I have been dumped

There she was just a-walking down the street
Singin' do wah diddy diddy dam diddy doh 
Snapping her fingers and shuffling to the beat 
Singin' do wah diddy diddy dam diddy doh 

I am writing Sunday's post and that means I am not with yoga teacher. She texted me today around 4 pm to tell me that she has found someone else to "date exclusively". I texted back: "I am happy for you. Good luck. Bye". What else can I say? It is just another experience from mach.com.

Yes, this time I have been dumped :-) Oh well... Everyone has been dumped or dumped someone. I knew what was coming with her. When I received the text message I wasn’t surprised, but it hit me that I have been played. This morning, I wanted to send her a message about not able to see her today, but I did not. So I ended rejected first. Rejection. Screw it. 

Today is my rest day. I woke up at 10 am, washed clothes - underwear, socks, towels... I was in pajamas for entire morning, took the things lazily and slowly. Around noon I went for groceries and filled out fridge for a week. Also I made the plan for next week. I'll try to do things according to my plan. New thing is that there will be no internet and phone usage before yoga practice.

So I'm finishing today's short post while listening Krishna Das's "Om Namah Shivaya"... It means "I bow to Shiva." Shiva is the supreme reality, the inner Self. It is the name given to consciousness that dwells in all. Shiva is the name of my true identity - my self...

In an hour I'll go to bed, read Illusion vs. Reality and be asleep by 9 pm. Tomorrow is next day.  Do wah diddy diddy dam diddy doh ... :-)