My mother died in the palliative care in January last year. I was with her a month earlier and I spend considerable time in that hospital department. The palliative care is the last place, it is the place for dying.
Recently, I read an article about the last words of the patients on the palliative care. Those patients in their last days has revealed the most common regrets they have at the end of their lives.
I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. – Dying patient
When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it they wished they had the courage to live life true to themselves, not the life others expected of them. In other words they see that their dreams have gone unfulfilled. They realized that they wasted the life.
I wish I hadn't worked so hard. – Dying patient
On the dead-bed every male have regret about the work. They wished that they had't work so hard. They had spend so much of their life on the treadmill of a work existence. And for what? Bigger car or house?
I wish that I had let myself be happier. – Dying patient
Many dying patients did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They lived their life according to patterns and habits. They followed comfort of familiarity. Deep within, they longed to laugh more and have craziness in their life.
So what we can learn from this?
This life is not for doing just household and worldly duties only to die. One day we will surely die; what will remain then? A wasted life of endless births?
The purpose of human birth is to obtain ultimate by realizing who we are. The first thing is to see and understand that worldly life has no truth. Everything is false; it is fake in its core. The one who realizes the falseness of everything is True.
Find out who you are and behave accordingly.