What do I truly want?
Yes, that is the crucial question. Not what someone else thinks, not family, friends or society.
At this point in my life, I have accumulated experiences and life lessons that I desire to share them with my partner.
I consider myself a wealthy man since my friends and family are my treasures. My partner has also been there, done that, got the life's scars too.
Why are some couples happier than others?
Forget what you watch in the movies or on tv. A happy relationship isn't anything like what you see there, full of romance, candlelight dinners and a trip around the world.
Anyway, What do you really see when you look at the world?
What do you see when you look at the people you are with?
You see things that you are attracted to, and things you don’t want anything to do with, isn't that true?
Much of what you see in your relationship, and the world in general, is actually a reflection of your beliefs about yourself.
When you’re with your partner that leaves you feeling annoyed, nervous, troubled, suspicious, edgy, or in any way uncomfortable, where does that come from?
What you are seeing is just a reflection of a hidden belief you have about yourself, one that you are not very comfortable with.
If you’re harboring hidden fears and insecurities, someone else's saying and doing just reinforces those, and as a result you’re going to feel uncomfortable around them. And that will be an uncomfortable relationship.
Likewise, when you’re around people who encourage you to feel loved and appreciated, part of what you are feeling is a reflection of your own belief that you deserve to be loved and appreciated.
The people around you are reinforcing your own belief that you have about yourself. If you believe that you don’t deserve to be loved, then you will be attracted to people who are incapable of loving you. They will also be attracted to you.
No matter how hard you try, these relationships are not satisfying. They will only reinforce your limiting belief that you don’t deserve to be loved.
You don't want that to be your reality. So, how do you avoid playing into this trap?
Become consciously aware that it is your beliefs that are creating unpleasant experiences in your relationships and then you have taken the first step toward freedom and great relationship.